Originally Posted by GoAmericaGo

So I was talking with a woman and the issue of race came up.
She told me she (she’s the same race as me) was married to a Hispanic man and I said ok that’s cool. Somehow we kept talking and I said that I would prefer for my child to marry someone within my race and my child’s race.. She then proceeded to say I was small town, ignorant and closed minded.
To that I just responded that perhaps she is closed minded if she can’t accept that people have their own unique preferences. I don’t at all fault say black people that say “black is beautiful” or if they say “I’m looking for my black queen” or whatever. I also don’t fault say Japan for being 99% Japanese — it’s whatever to me. I also don’t fault people that are open to two or theree or all races.
So who’s right here? Me for having my preference or her for calling me closed minded and ignorant?
If we look at the country as a whole, it does seem that most people do have a preference even if they don’t admit it. Only what — 10-15% of people identify as mixed race? That means at least 90 or percent marry and have children that look very similar to themselves and their ancestors, right?

Originally Posted by thelambofdeth

So I'm pretty ugly with terribly low self-esteem and anxiety and haven't had any real action or a relationship with a woman in ages. But I'm tall, in great shape and I dress like reallywell. I'm not bragging, it's just my fashion sense is like the only thing I really appreciate about myself. I'll be at a bar and random guys will literally just walk up and tell me how cool I like or how I should be in movies, ask me am I a musician or a artist, w/e. Women hardly notice and when they do they're either not attractive or they're a friend's significant other.
That's just a backdrop, anyway, last week a friend and I went to the bar and sat at this booth, and I noticed this chick staring at me. And I don't mean small glances here and there and subsequently looking away, she was just literally staring at me. I would look away and look back and she was just....still staring with the slightest smile. I asked my friend if it was just me, and...no...he confirmed she was blatantly just staring at me. It got the the point I just had to get up leave to the other side of the bar bc it was awkward af. She was actually pretty cute, but she was there with a dude....so...why?? Like, even later as we walked by her later my friend said she gave me a head to toe look again....just weird.
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I guess my question is, why stare at someone like that? Like I said, I dress really well so I'm used to be appreciating my clothes, but to literally stare at someone while you're with someone else? That's how I know she wasn't actually interested in me, bc she was there with someone else. Was she just trying to make him jealous? Or maybe just drunk? Or a total turbo sl#t I guess.....